One of the many cliché lessons we really have learned from our continuing Sandy experience is that possessions do not matter. After losing $35,000 in “contents,” two cars, and the entire interior of our beloved 1920s house, closely followed by a phone, computer, and wedding ring, this is something we talk about often. We have moved on, and are happy, without any of it. The wedding ring is the real no-brainer. Especially during a time like this, a metal band is no match for the strength and beauty of our bond. The friends who brought our old house to life are still with us, strong and healthy, and they come visit us in our tiny temporary basement apartment! Our family is slowly but surely helping us replenish our finances and replace our house and its contents. The love and emotional support has poured in more swiftly than the Atlantic, and has filled in all the holes left behind. We do not need a thing but you and each other. Not a thing. What we’ve heard and believed our whole lives has proven to be true:
Possessions do not matter.
Then why has Steve spent the last month comparing cooking ranges online for at least an hour a day? Why do we know the average BTU output of a burner? Why do I know what BTU stands for?
Why have I changed my mind about the bathroom tile SEVEN times? Why did I spend an entire Saturday afternoon sorting through all 764 Google results for “drop pendant lighting”?
Why can I name off the top of my head three Benjamin Moore green-grays (Soft Fern, Cheyenne Green, October Mist)? We can’t even begin to dream about painting for another five months!
Possessions—and money–do not matter. This is the great lesson. And yet, in order to rebuild a house from top to bottom, we have little time or cause to think about anything other than what we owned and what is was worth, and what we would like to own and how much it will cost. Possessions. Money. We are thinking about possessions. Every. Waking. Moment.
Appliances: Is stainless on the way out right when we are finally ready to take the plunge? Toilet seats: Will shorter guests have to balance on tippy-toes if I get a comfort-height seat? Fridge. Side-by-side? Top freezer? Bottom freezer? Do I want to bend to retrieve my peas?
So you see, we know that possessions are a thing of the past for us. As well as the present—and hopefully, our future.